Say It Loud: I’m Black and I’m Proud!

About a month ago, my stepbrother, nephew, niece and myself all had a conversation about being black. It was quite disturbing to hear what they had to say. 

Let me set this all up first. My nephew and my stepbrother were being kids and poking fun at each other when my nephew runs up to me and says, “Dominique! He keeps calling me black!”

Me: You are black, baby.

My nephew: No. I’m brown.

I thought about it.

Me: You’re both.. (I’m smiling)

He looked lost.

Me: You don’t wanna be black?

My Nephew: No.

Me: Why not?

My Nephew: Because all black people are mean!!

I thought some more.

What the hell?

Now, my first reaction was anger. I felt angry because some place, somehow… my seven-year old nephew is being taught that he is mean because he is black. I mean he honestly believes this. 

Me: I’m black. Am I mean?

My nephew: Noooooo…but I see all the television shows…



No more tv.

The four of us had a mini-debate about all our complexions. According to them, I was black, my niece was white, and anyone any other color didn’t have a color. Our convo ended with me trying to let them know that it’s okay being black. We all chanted, lol. 

“I’m Black. You’re Black.

Guys, this bothers me so much.

Our children are being fed these stereotypes STILL. It’s 2015 for God’s sake. 😦

I say all this to say that some things are etched into society. Media, adults, and children send messages everyday to African-American children that black is bad. It’s so normal. It’s sickening.


This has got to stop.

It starts with parenting. 

I want my niece to love and value herself.

It’s a cycle. If your children hear you say negative things about your race, complexion, hair texture, body type, you are teaching self-hate. They will believe the same things and blindly teach their children the same.

Children imitate everything.

Watch what you do. Watch what you say around these precious and absorbent little souls.

I’m black. Youre black. 🙂

2 thoughts on “Say It Loud: I’m Black and I’m Proud!

  1. Hi Dom, i live in Italy, where most of the black people the “Italians” see are very poor immigrants who try to make a Euro by pointing out parking spaces, selling umbrellas on the street, that sort of thing. My twelve-year-old son is lucky in that he has a black friend from pre-school, and he’s just Falou – a sweet kid. But he sees a lot of YouTube – and he’s picked up the n-word from – you guessed it – black vid presenters. Plus the culture on YouTube is generally white-male-hetero. He’s a sensitive boy, but it’s very hard for him not to absorb the culture that he sees around him – and me giving him lectures on multi-culturalism etc. probably goes in one ear and out the other…

    1. Thanks for your comment! It’s really unfortunate that we can’t help what everyone else says or does. Kids DO absorb everything they hear and see, and there’s so many people on YouTube with their different opinions and ways of life. But I think you’re doing a great job with your son. I pray that those lectures will pay off in the long run. 🙂

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